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141 | Transcending the Decades Daryl McMullen

November 21, 2022

Minute of Transparency: Getting Intentional...

Today's Topic: Transcending the Decades

  1. Your birth year = Your generation

  2. 1970s

  3. 1980s

  4. 1990s

  5. 2000s

  6. 2010s

  7. 2020s

// 1. YOUR BIRTH YEAR = YOUR GENERATION

Let me start by explaining that I got the idea for this episode 2 years too late...but I decided to do it anyways.

Because I thought it was a fun idea:

  • Two years ago I would have been the Big 50

  • And it would make more sense to look back at the 5 decades I've lived through

  • But even though I missed the opportunity - I'm still going to do it - at 52

I'm going to walk through each of the 5 decades I've been part of and list the big things I've experienced.

But before we dive into that - I thought it might be good to discuss the whole generation thing.

I'm not going to walk through each of them - but I think it's important to understand what generation we're part of - and how that position in time has impacted us.

It isn't rocket science. Our birth year determines the generation we're part of.

And for me - that is Generation X.

  • Directly after the Baby Boomers

  • And right before the Millennials - or Generation Y

Gen Xers were born between the years 1965 and 1980. And since I was born in 1970 - I got to experience 10 full years of it - placing me squarely in that generation. No if's and's or but's about it.

And here are the distinguishing characteristics of my generation:

According to articles by:

Characteristics of Generation X:

  • Often dismissed as the slacker generation (especially in the 90's - though this description is highly contested)

  • Sometimes referred to as the "middle child" generation

  • As they were often overlooked and almost forgotten

  • Lived through the AIDS epidemic

  • Experienced the MTV culture

  • Watched the cultural landscape shift

  • Saw the rise of the LGBTQ+ community

  • Grew up in dual-income families or single-parent households

  • Often children of divorce

  • They were often latchkey kids - spending parts of the day without adult supervision

  • The first generation to grow up with personal computers

  • So most grew up tech savvy

  • They experienced shaky economic times as children and young adults

  • They are often viewed as being resourceful, independent, and able to maintain work-life balance

  • They tend to be more liberal on social issues and more ethnically diverse than previous generations

Gen X-ers as parents:

  • Gen X-ers are all about parenting

  • They were the first generation to use what we now refer to as the "helicopter parenting" approach

  • Unlike their Boomer parents, who famously let their kids stay outside until the streetlights came on

  • Gen X parents have a tendency to be far more involved with their children

  • They are a generation that focuses on learning about parenting

  • They seem to care about the work-life balance

  • They understand the importance of individualism and tend to support their children’s choices

  • And finally - Gen X-ers are a generation of volunteers and are very involved in their kids’ development

So I tell you all that - because it's actually a significant part of who we are.

The generation we grew up in, the cultural norms, the social experiences and the events that happened in the world - all play into the way we experience the world.

I could probably do an entire episode just on Transcending Generations...but for now - just know that your generation is important. And the more you understand about it - the better you'll understand yourself.

That said - let's walk through the 5 Decades that I've been a part of.

Starting with:

// 2. THE 1970s

But before we start - I'm going to let you in on the format I'm using.

For each decade I'm going to talk about the following things:

  • My environment

  • Big Events

  • Popular Music

  • Popular Movies

  • Personal Events

However - I'm letting you know up front that when I list the Big Events, Popular Music and Popular Movies - I'm not just listing the ones that show up on a list - these are the ones on the list that impacted me. So there may be large events I don't list - and huge musicians that I don't even talk about - but it's because they didn't influence me the way they may have influenced others.

So let's jump in: 1970s

  • My environment:

    • Lived in Washington State, Minnesota, Illinois (1st Grade) and Wyoming (2nd & 3rd Grade)

  • Big Events:

    • 1973 Roe v Wade - didn't mean a lot to me as a 3 year old - but it obviously came full circle this year when it was overturned

    • 1977 Rise of the Personal Computer - something that would impact me greatly - and become a career path

    • 1978 The Jonestown Massacre - This might seem like a strange thing to list - but because of my traditional Christian upbringing - this was a story I not only heard about - but was taught about. It was a cautionary tale about Jim Jones and how easy it was for someone to create a cult. And how dangerous it was to get caught up in the teachings of a false teacher like this. Ultimately over 900 people died because of this leader

  • Popular Music:

    • The Eagles, Queen, ABBA, Elton John, Fleetwood Mac, Billy Joel, AC/DC, Stevie Wonder, Aerosmith, Journey, etc.

  • Popular Movies:

    • Not that watched many movies from birth to 10 years old...but movies that I eventually watched that had a big impact on me

    • The Godfather, Star Wars, Alien, etc.

  • Personal Events:

    • Moving from Chicago, IL to Powell, WY after 1st Grade. HUGE change of scenery and would become a major part of my overall story

// 3. THE 1980s

  • My environment:

    • Still in Wyoming from 4th to 8th Grade

    • Then moved back to Chicago - High School

    • Southwest Michigan for my first two years of college

  • Big Events:

    • 1980 Ronald Reagan President - Not sure why - but this seemed to be a pretty significant event at the time

    • 1981 The AIDS Epidemic - one of those scary things we grew up with

    • 1983 The Birth of the Internet - HUGE in terms of a career I would go into - and the speed at which society could access information

    • 1985 Reagan and Gorbachev meet and agree to scale back on nuclear weapons

    • 1986 The Shuttle Tragedy - Probably one of the defining moments of the decade for most Gen X-ers

    • 1989 The Fall of the Berlin Wall - an event that suggested the end of the Cold War - and a more peaceful world

  • Popular Music:

    • Everything! The 80s was defined by music - at least in my world - as a teenager deeply impacted by the artists of that decade

    • Michael Jackson, Madonna, U2, Prince, Bon Jovi, George Michael/Wham!, The Police, Metallica, Billy Joel, Journey, Van Halen, Guns & Roses, Whitney Houston, Duran Duran, etc.

    • And groups that weren't at the top of every chart - but that had a huge impact on me: Erasure, YAZ, Depeche Mode, Tears for Fears, Mr. Mister, INXS, and the list is too long to complete 

  • Popular Movies:

    • Indiana Jones Movies, Star Wars Movies, Back to the Future, Die Hard, Top Gun, and all the coming of age movies from that era like Breakfast Club, Ferris Bueller's Day Off, Stand By Me, Say Anything, Pretty in Pink, etc.

  • Personal Events:

    • Parent's separating for a while

    • Moving from Wyoming back to Chicago

    • 2 years of day school and 2 years of boarding school

    • Graduating from High School

    • Moving from Chicago to Michigan

    • Floundering in college - switching degrees (Architecture to Sociology

// 4. THE 1990s

  • My environment:

    • Southwest Michigan for the final 3 years of college

    • Batavia, IL to work at Mooseheart

    • South Bend, IN to work at a Community Mental Health Facility, went to grad school and continued to work in the mental health field

  • Big Events:

    • 1991 Desert Shield - Many of us assumed there could be a draft which we would be eligible for

    • 1992 Technical end to the Cold War with the dissolution of the Soviet Union

    • 1993 The Creation of the EU - Again - seemed like a step in the right direction getting the countries in Europe to join hands and agree to work together

    • 1994 Amazon.com is Born - Need I say more? Life hasn't been the same since...

    • 1996 The Oklahoma Federal Building Bombing - One of the most dramatic terrorist attacks inside our country

    • 1996 The Cloning of Dolly the Sheep - Significant in that it signified just how far we could go with technology and also opened a can of worms as to the ethical questions behind our progress. Questions like, "Just because we can do something - should we?"

    • 1998 The Birth of the Google Era - Similar to Amazon - a major step forward in the use of the Cloud for search, document creation and file sharing

  • Popular Music:

    • For me - music began it's slow decline - fizzling out in 90s

    • Though there were still some pretty influential artists:

    • Celine Dion, Garth Brooks, Nirvana, Shania Twain, Green Day, The Cranberries, Enya, etc.

  • Popular Movies:

    • The Shawshank Redemption, Goodfellas, Pulp Fiction, Toy Story, Schindler's List, Silence of the Lambs, The Matrix, Titanic, Jurassic Park, etc.

  • Personal Events:

    • Finishing up college

    • Finding my way in the field of mental health

    • Getting my MSW

    • Meeting my wife

    • Getting married

    • Buying our first home

    • Buying our first car

// 5. THE 2000s

  • My environment:

    • South Bend, IN - working at MBHC

    • Granger, IN - working at GCC

  • Big Events:

    • 2000 Y2K - We all watched the bal drop on December 31st and wondered if the world was going to end

    • 2001 9/11 - A major terrorist attack on American soil. The entire world stopped and watched as the unthinkable happened. A defining moment for me to be sure - but my guess is that the entire world remembers that day

    • 2002 The Launch of the Department of Homeland Security - A major change in the structure of our government. The ramifications of which we probably don't even understand. At the time, our understanding was that we were giving up some of our fundamental rights in order to keep the country safe

    • 2003 Desert Storm - The "shock and awe" campaign to end the Saddam Hussein regime

    • 2004 Facebook Launches - And social media was off and running

    • 2006 Saddam Hussein executed

    • 2007 The iPhone Launches - And the era of mobile devices changes forever

    • 2009 The First African American President - Barack Obama takes office and breaks the color barrier. Provides calm and civility while in office

  • Popular Music:

    • Linkin Park, Coldplay, Beyonce, Pink, Alicia Keys, Rihanna, Lady Gaga, Usher, Shakira, Green Day, Miley Cyrus, etc.

  • Popular Movies:

    • The Dark Knight, Lord of the Rings, Gladiator, Wall-E, The Bourne Identity, Avatar, Iron Man, Twilight, The Grinch, etc.

  • Personal Events:

    • Moving up the ladder in the mental health field

    • Teaching myself web design and development

    • Switching careers - volunteered at - then became Web Director at GCC

    • Started the Web Driven Church blog

    • Wrote "Controversy Theory" - a book coming to terms with the interplay of Christian faith and pop psychology

    • Started a family - Had three kids

// 6. THE 2010s

  • My environment:

    • Granger, IN - working at GCC

    • Irvine, CA - working at Mariners then PJS/SLS

  • Big Events:

    • 2011 Bin Laden Killed - the culmination of the war in Afghanistan - and payback for the 9/11 terrorist attacks

    • 2014 Russian Annexation of the Crimean Peninsula - We may not have understood the ramifications then - but it's pretty clear now that Putin has fully invaded the country

    • 2016 Donald Trump Becomes President - In a last minute turn of events the political world was turned on its head. Traditional government was no more. Trump ushered in an era of disruption, lies and subversive behavior. And our political structure will take years to recover from its effects

  • Popular Music:

    • Adele, Justin Bieber, Taylor Swift, Ed Sheeran, BTS, One Direction, Maroon 5, Katy Perry, The Weekend, Post Malone, Imagine Dragons, Selena Gomez, Billie Eilish, Sam Smith, Neon Trees, etc.

  • Popular Movies:

    • The Dark Knight Series, The Avengers, Inception, The Social Network, A Star is Born, Parasite, Black Panther, The Joker, Interstellar, etc.

  • Personal Events:

    • My struggle with alcohol was ramping up

    • I struggled to find meaning in the work I was doing

    • Moved to California

    • Finally stopped drinking in 2017

    • Was let go by the church I was working at

    • Then Tammy was let go by the same organization

    • Began the process of deconstruction

    • Was able to see how God led us through pretty dark times - but struggled to return to organized religion

// 7. THE 2020s

  • My environment:

    • Irvine, CA - working at PJS/SLS

  • Big Events:

    • 2020 COVID 19 - The virus that brought the entire world to its knees. Reminiscent of the Spanish Flu and other global pandemics. The impact on people, culture, business and society in general will probably never fully be understood

    • 2020 Unrest - The death of George Floyd, along with the issues created by COVID shutdowns, mask requirements, vaccinations, boosters and all that set off a powder keg in this country. Protests, riots, looting and a the start of extreme polarization between the political parties

    • 2020 Election Cycle - We all know how that turned out. Election results denied. Failure to peacefully transfer power. Complete lack of respect in the election process. All leading to the January 6th Insurrection

    • 2022 The War in Ukraine - Russia invades the Ukraine in an attempt to resurrect the power of the Soviet Union

    • 2022 Dobbs v. Jackson Women's Health Organization - Overturns Roe v Wade

    • 2022 Elon Musk Purchases Twitter - And it will most likely never be the same again

    • As you can see - we're off to a great start this decade...

  • Popular Music:

    • Harry Styles, Taylor Swift, Dua Lipa, Billie Eilish, Post Malone, Olivia Rodrigo, Doja Cat, etc.

  • Popular Movies:

    • The Social Dilemma, Tenet, Don't Look Up, Top Gun Maverick, etc.

  • Personal Events:

    • The struggle with COVID and the ability to travel and be social

    • Remote working - and the lack of human interaction

    • Political polarization

    • Global unrest and the tensions between large countries with nuclear capability

    • Continued deconstruction and the inability to connect with a local church

    • Became a Resource Family

    • Got our first kiddo

    • Trying to be positive in the world we find ourselves in

Let's Land the Plane:

Thank you for humoring me as I took a quick walk down memory lane.

I hope you were able to jump in from time to time as your story intersected mine.

And I would encourage you to do this exercise for yourself. Go back and remember the decades you've been part of.

What stood out for you? What world events impacted you? What music had the biggest influence? What movies left a mark on your soul?

And how did your story intersect all of that along the way?

That's it for today. Have a great week - and as always - keep Transcending Human!


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